The appeal of inconstant love

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The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Alelou » Sat Nov 03, 2012 6:58 pm

Maybe this explains why Trip keeps putting up with T'Pol:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/04/opini ... ef=general
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Re: The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Distracted » Sun Nov 04, 2012 2:20 am

Of course. Variable reinforcement works! Why do you think comments are so darned addictive? 8)
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Re: The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Kotik » Sun Nov 04, 2012 5:21 am

It's still a very unhealthy type of love however. The unexpected 'rewards' might offset the frequent pain and disappointments, but it'll add up eventually and the results can be very undesirable. Ask someone, who ended up with depression and a 4 month stint in the loonie bin after years in such a 'relationship'. :?

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Re: The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Alelou » Sun Nov 04, 2012 12:10 pm

If it's bad for adults in romantic relationships, imagine how damaging it is for children from their parents.

And I totally agree with you about feedback, Distracted! Though even that hasn't had a motivating effect on me lately, I'm afraid.
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Re: The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Distracted » Sat Nov 10, 2012 5:29 pm

We all know inconstant love is bad for us in real life, and yet in fiction it seems to predominate. Could it be because inconstant love makes for interesting story lines while undying devotion is boring once it's achieved?

Hmmmm.... could be.... :vulcan:
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Re: The appeal of inconstant love

Postby Linda » Thu Nov 22, 2012 6:21 pm

That seems to be it - predictable ANYTHING gets boring. But we get stressed out when things become unpredictable, especially lack of a predictable source of income because it impacts our access to food and shelter - basic life support. But basic life support solved, we do seem to enjoy angst followed by euphoria and recycled again and again. So that article seems logical to me. Just my two cents worth.
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