Aquarius wrote:So I kind of feel like using that line of reasoning to say that T'Pol would completely forget her "distaste" for things is like adding one and one and one and getting five.
I think it comes all back to logical reasoning. She's in a relationship with a human, so she'll have to extend a human gesture now and then. I think that in a committed relationship, she would allow holding hands. Everything beyond that is a stretch. The Kiss in "Bound" was a panic reaction as Trip sort of implied to return to Columbia. I don't think she would do that again if they were together. In this case she would allow such gestures only in the privacy of their cabin.