Panyasan I don't disagree with any of that. In fact that's kind of my point, they are
both responsible for the mess they were in. They
both could have done things to lessen the damage done. Trip was the one who understood that being in a romantic relationship means that you will get hurt sometimes. He also understood that sometimes you're the one doing the hurting. T'Pol didn't. She never had one before in her entire life. It never crossed her mind that she might be hurting Koss by breaking their betrothal. In fact I think many people gloss over the fact that she was also hurting, not just because of her "Vulcan upbringing" but because she could tell Trip was hurt, but she didn't understand how or why. And the last thing she wanted to do was hurt him.
I agree that Trip had to call her out and get her to tell him with actual words what she wanted. It was good for her. But Trip is an adult not a teenager, he knew he had choices, and he made them. I do not and never will agree that Trip was a
victim, an emotional martyr to the whims of a capricious screwed up woman. To me that is the ultimate indignity to
both of them! And here where we are so concerned for their dignity, I cannot understand this reasoning.
So all those fanfics about 'They clean the air after Elizabeth's death and all is well', can be quite nice and fluffy, but they are unrealistic as hell and from my point of view out of character. Trust needs time to develope and not only some finally shared words.
But that's also the advantage of fanfiction: Write what you like, not necessarily what is realistic or in character.
Since
Thot brought this up I thought I'd comment. Honestly at that point they had bigger things to deal with than "Who was meaner to who." I mean their child was created without their knowledge and
murdered. If they can't forgive and move on now, they
should have broken up when *the_abomination* said they did. The way I see it is this is when they have to make the choice... Be together, fight like hell to make it a success... Or give up. I think they need three rules...
1. I accept the fact that I will screw up and hurt you.
2. I accept the fact that you will screw up and hurt me.
3. I accept the blood, sweat, (and in Trip's case) tears it will take to make this work.
Aikiweezie Although I
adore your optimisim. I'm sorry to say that considering what we saw, I do think he was talking about the bond. Especially because of that hateful awful line! God I wanted to ring his neck!